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She was more than a statistic!

by Aisha DaCosta on February 5, 2012

They say…

“1 in 8 U.S. women (just under 12%) will develop invasive breast cancer over the course of her lifetime.”

“In women under 45, breast cancer is more common in African-American women and overall, African-American women are more likely to die of breast cancer.”

She was twenty-six (26)

We were born ten (10) months apart

I called her my sister, my soror, my best friend

They call her 1 in 8

To me, she was more than a statistic!

In DC we walked in thousands, Avon strong

Some walked with survivors while she was gone

We met and exceeded our goals to partake

With every step my feet and heart ached

for three days straight

Yet I marched on

My last walk in pink was on the Upper West Side

Her streets made me think about my why

And I cried, I walked, I cried,

My feet hurt, I cried,

She wasn’t there, I cried

I felt alone, I cried

So, I stopped and created a new why

She was more than a statistic

Their 1 in 8 was my sister

And I miss her

But walking wasn’t the way

For me to say, “I am okay!”

She left dreams behind

And I wanted to breathe them

No more tears on asphalt, dressed in pink for me

I needed new scenery for my memories

Painting portraits of legacy free of statistics

She was more than 1 in 8

She was my sister, my soror, my best friend!

We 501(c)(3)’d her dreams to reality

And named it all after her…

Taking back February 5 and the 14th

Eight years since her sunset

On March 1st we begin to select

Scholars in her name based on leadership

She was more than a statistic

She was my sister, my soror, and my best friend!

I am O’Kah! Inc

Reclaiming our neighborhoods through self-empowerment





We miss you Kahdine!


If you and your family have been touched by breast cancer, I encourage you to find positive ways to remember them that go beyond the statistics. We did and you can too!


Leave your feedback below and let me know your thoughts!

{ 13 comments… read them below or add one }

Orlando Wallace February 5, 2012 at 12:20 pm

What can I say sister, your words touched me deeply. I often say, “love is an action word.” By your actions, you put together I am O’kah! Inc. And of course I will support this worthy cause. Turning the memories of your sister into ways to help others is inspiring. God is indeed glorified when we have love for one another. Your sister will always be with you, you know that. God bless…


Aisha DaCosta February 5, 2012 at 1:59 pm

Thanks Orlando! I feel like she is smiling down on me. 🙂


Denise Aguiar February 5, 2012 at 3:28 pm

I am O’kah! Inc. is a way to keep Kahdine’s dream alive & her legacy … what she was put on this Earth to do … to touch lives! The foundation is doing just that by creating opportunities for those with a desire to get ahead, to leave this world a better place! Last October I ran a 10K Fundraiser for Breast Cancer & on the wall I wrote my maternal grand-mother’s name who died of breast cancer at age 32 and I also wrote Kahdine’s name. Though I did not know her, but when you talk about her I know she was truly someone special.


Aisha DaCosta February 5, 2012 at 3:46 pm

Thanks Denise! She was amazing. She would have loved you. You remind me of her kind she was. Thank you acknowledging her during your walk…breast cancer and its impact on young lives is a story that more need to hear and become aware of. Love you!


Soara-Joye Ross February 6, 2012 at 3:20 am


I am sorry for you loss. What a beautiful dream Kahdine had ; her dream lives on through you! Congratulations on starting such a wonderful foundation! Godspeed.

S. Ross


Aisha DaCosta February 6, 2012 at 5:41 am

Thanks Soara. Kahdine means a lot to me and I am excited about I am O’Kah! and everything we have planned.


Adrienne February 7, 2012 at 12:22 pm

Wow Aisha, I also had tears in my eyes while reading it and then watching you speak on camera. I have no doubt that Kahdine is so very proud of you as I’m sure she was in life as well.

That’s so honorable of you to carry on her dream. What an inspiration you are Aisha and I’m so very proud to know you.

My mother and cousin are breast cancer survivors and I’m sure you have heard my story that my Father fought cancer for over 42 years. I’m no stranger to this horrible disease so I’m a huge advocate of it as well. Our family volunteers for the cancer society so I applaud what you are doing with your life.

I say thank you for all the cancer survivors and for those who weren’t as fortunate. I pray that we can all make a difference now moving forward.


Aisha DaCosta February 7, 2012 at 3:27 pm

Thanks Adrienne. I am so sorry that cancer has touched your family so deeply…it is a monster of a disease. When I first saw Kahdine in the hospital I didn’t even recognize her. For me, I needed to remember her for everything except the cancer and I am O’Kah! Inc definitely does that…it focuses on all good things about Kahdine. Thanks for showing me some love. Have a great week!



consie February 22, 2012 at 9:48 pm

hi aisha as you know i am khadine’s cousin when i saw this tears started flowing down i never knew my cousin had all this dreams i am so proud of her we miss her dearly she was such a wonderful person and i thank you aisha for keeping khadine’s dream alive and i know she is watching down on you and thanking you for making her dreams a reality thank you.


Sharon Vornholt March 6, 2012 at 9:42 am

Aisha – That was a truly, inspiring video. I’m sure your sister could never imagine the things you have dreamed and accomplished. Sometimes we just don’t dream big enough. You have proven that all it really takes is a committment to that dream to make it happen.


Aisha DaCosta March 6, 2012 at 7:54 pm

Hey Sharon! Thanks for visiting! Yes, I am O’Kah! is definitely a labor of love. Through this journey I found my purpose in life…the kids we impact with I am O’Kah! There is freedom in impacting the lives of others. Thanks again Sharon.


Autumn April 1, 2012 at 10:25 pm

I wish I could’ve known Kahdine. I know she was an amazing woman! Love to you Aisha.


Aisha DaCosta April 2, 2012 at 3:37 am

Thanks sweetie! Kahdine was amazing…her spirit lives on through all that we do. I am O’Kah is the vehicle we are using to continue to share her love and vision.


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